A mother's love?
I have a wonderful mother whose unselfish love and dedication to her three, at times rather ungrateful (;-P), kids inspire me daily. Out of respect for her privacy, I won't give the details, but suffice to say she brought us up after the sudden death of my father over 21 years ago, when the 3 of us were still in our teens and schooling, and worked at 4 jobs to ensure that we had sufficient money to complete our university studies! She's truly amazing, and I know that I can never ever repay her even a fraction of the love and commitment she has given us through all these years.
Unfortunately, I realise that there are mothers out there who are not as good as my own. There are mothers who aid their husbands/partners in sexually abusing their own daughters (eg the case of the man who raped 6 of his daughters with the knowledge and assistance of his wives, the children's mothers), or mothers who continue visiting their husbands in jail even after knowing about the sexual abuse of their children at his hands.
The most tragic example is that of Nonoi, who was a little 2 year old girl who was raped and then murdered by her stepfather...and yet his wife (Nonoi's mother) is visiting him in prison with their son! I know that I do not have the right to judge others, but I find it incomprehensible how any woman could continue to love and support her husband after discovering that he has sexually abused her child??!!??! OK, maybe she believes in forgiveness, but surely she must have grieved for the loss of her daughter? Where is her sense of justice and morality? What is she going to tell her son when he's older (since it's very likely that the sex fiend will be found guilty of murder and sentenced to death)? The truth? or a lie? And if the son is told the truth, what would he feel, being the son of an evil child sexual abuser and murderer? I know I would die of shame if that was my father! And change my name as soon as possible!
I don't believe that all mothers are good, and in fact, I think many are not, but at least they try to be good mothers! But women who continue supporting their husbands despite them commiting the most evil and heinious crimes, deserve to have their children taken away from them! I'm serious! What sort of morality would these women be able to teach their children, since they clearly do not have any moral compass?
I know, I know, I'm not married so how can I understand the thoughts and feelings of women in such positions? But I do have a sense of morality, ethics and justice, and I have two brothers who are married (but no kids, as yet!). I also have my beloved god-daughters and god-son. If any of these kids were ever to be sexually/physically abused by their parents, I would drag the perpetrator down to the police station myself! And made sure that they were prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law! And give the wife a tight slap to wake her up if she dared to support her husband!!!!
Evil exists in this world. I don't just mean that people commit evil deeds, but evil also is present when people remain silent or look away when faced with injustice and evil. We need to hold the line between good and bad, between light and darkness. For if that line falls, then we all will fall with it.
Unfortunately, I realise that there are mothers out there who are not as good as my own. There are mothers who aid their husbands/partners in sexually abusing their own daughters (eg the case of the man who raped 6 of his daughters with the knowledge and assistance of his wives, the children's mothers), or mothers who continue visiting their husbands in jail even after knowing about the sexual abuse of their children at his hands.
The most tragic example is that of Nonoi, who was a little 2 year old girl who was raped and then murdered by her stepfather...and yet his wife (Nonoi's mother) is visiting him in prison with their son! I know that I do not have the right to judge others, but I find it incomprehensible how any woman could continue to love and support her husband after discovering that he has sexually abused her child??!!??! OK, maybe she believes in forgiveness, but surely she must have grieved for the loss of her daughter? Where is her sense of justice and morality? What is she going to tell her son when he's older (since it's very likely that the sex fiend will be found guilty of murder and sentenced to death)? The truth? or a lie? And if the son is told the truth, what would he feel, being the son of an evil child sexual abuser and murderer? I know I would die of shame if that was my father! And change my name as soon as possible!
I don't believe that all mothers are good, and in fact, I think many are not, but at least they try to be good mothers! But women who continue supporting their husbands despite them commiting the most evil and heinious crimes, deserve to have their children taken away from them! I'm serious! What sort of morality would these women be able to teach their children, since they clearly do not have any moral compass?
I know, I know, I'm not married so how can I understand the thoughts and feelings of women in such positions? But I do have a sense of morality, ethics and justice, and I have two brothers who are married (but no kids, as yet!). I also have my beloved god-daughters and god-son. If any of these kids were ever to be sexually/physically abused by their parents, I would drag the perpetrator down to the police station myself! And made sure that they were prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law! And give the wife a tight slap to wake her up if she dared to support her husband!!!!
Evil exists in this world. I don't just mean that people commit evil deeds, but evil also is present when people remain silent or look away when faced with injustice and evil. We need to hold the line between good and bad, between light and darkness. For if that line falls, then we all will fall with it.
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